On the btrfs issues I had earlier (btrfs subvolume delete made my kernel use up the entirety of the 4GiB of RAM on my NAS and paniced), looks like btrfs quotas were to blame... disabled quotas, subvolume delete is instant and no more GBs of ram use. It makes it impossible to see how large (as in: how much unique data) each snapshot has, but them's the breaks I guess. The SBC I use for the NAS is a FriendlyARM NanoPC T4 with a M2-to-SATA board, so perhaps it's time to upgrade that anyway when they make a new version with at least more RAM...